Love at first sight is worldly defined as: looking upon a stranger and receiving an immediate, romantic attraction to them. This concept was recorded in Greek mythology by people who could only explain this—like many other things—through the means of the gods. A person could only fall in love so quickly because Eros (Cupid) had struck them with his arrow, and bam, the deal was done.
Today, this concept, like Cupid, has become a myth. Many people don't believe that love at first sight actually exists. Well of course they don't! If you define it that way and neglect to take the idea to heart, one is not going to believe it. I'll admit I was very skeptical that love in general existed. Watching so many relationships and marriages fall apart around me, not having any romance in my life as well, I nearly gave up all hope.
But something that I've come to learn is not to define things in a worldly way, but in a spiritual way. But how does one define love at first sight, spiritually? Well let's break it down... A person is made of three entities: the mind, body and spirit. The mind is what gives us physical reactions; it's the drive of our actions, the cause of our physical feelings and so forth. It can't be seen, but we know we have one because we think. It's that simple. Our spirit is what makes us live. It has existed before the earth was created. Our spirit has been and will be the presence of God. It has been around every other spirit that walks on this earth today. It's what carries our conscience, communicates with the Holy Ghost and The Lord, passing the message to our minds and then to our bodies.
A person's spirit, I believe, is hidden deep within us and it's our choice how we project it onto others. For example, sharing our beliefs—opening our hearts and allowing a person to feel the love of The Lord that is with us. This is how a person also falls in love. You see, a person can recognize a spirit if both hearts are open to each other. It's like feeling the presence of a deceased loved one. You know they are there because you can feel them as you have felt them in the premortal existence.
This concept works the same with the living. If one truly opens their heart to the concept of falling in love. That true, happy, passionate, unconditional love that happens with one glance. They can look upon a person and see their eternal potential. And when the other person has this same mindset, both will immediately recognize each other's spirit and see their hearts through the power, knowledge and love of The Lord, and know without a doubt this person will forever be there companion. Or in other words...love at first sight.
Now I should also mention that this process can take time. One can fall in love with another, but the other may have their heart still closed off just enough for them to turn away. This is where our faith is tested, where the one who has fallen in love has to choose whether or not that feeling exists. It's an easy thing to mistake it for wishful thinking or fancying the idea of love. And truthfully, it may not mean that the feeling of love you have is romantic, but could be a prompting to show them the kindness they need to help them through a hard time. A person can love someone like a friend, a parent, a child, a teacher, etc. love does not always have to relate to romance.
But the hardest thing to determine is...which one is it? And that my friend is up to you. The first step is choosing to open your heart to all and then you’ll be guided to the ones who need the specific love you are willing to give. Eventually that one will be the person you call husband or wife. But if you are seriously confused, here is something to consider. Our body is the physical part of the three things that make up our existence. But if our spirit is underneath it all, can it feel the spirit of another? Of course it can. One of the most important forms of communication is touch. It's scientifically proven that people need physical contact to survive. It's a physical, mental and emotional need, which is why when we seek comfort, we look to someone else for a hug. When we see someone who is sad, we embrace them. And in some cases, when we look for someone to love us, we wait for that moment when our lips touch to feel that spark of confirmation.
If it’s confirmation you seek—that you have opened your heart, but still cannot determine whether or not you love them or they love you in a romantic way. Look into their eyes, for we all know that the eyes are the windows to our souls. Subtly and appropriately touch them while speaking. Rest your hand on theirs, or on their shoulder. It can be a casual conversation or something meaningful. But it doesn't even have to be subtle either. You could gather them into your arms, take their face in your hands and kiss their heart out. Either way, make that connection and listen carefully. I strongly suggest this especially if you two are having an argument or are angry with each other. When one feels anger or sadness, it's automatic for us to close our hearts to the people we have hurtful feelings toward. But touch is a strong way of keeping our hearts open and the communication of our spirits intact. It reminds us of eternity and the promises you made out loud or silently to them.
If you are still unsure of your feelings for someone, make that spiritual connection and wait for the feeling. If that feeling—and you will recognize it—does not come, then that person may not be the one for you. Or they may not return the feelings you have. That doesn't mean you should kick that person to the curb, but it may help you see where your future is going with them and decide the next, emotional step. Perhaps it'll help you see the developments you need to make for yourself, so you may eventually reach that level of love that includes forever. Whichever way it happens, if you receive that vision of love and eternity, you are truly looking at that their spirit for the first time. In other words...love at first sight.
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